Go with the flow. The same words keep popping up randomly and have been doing so for the past few weeks. It’s in my Instagram or Facebook feed, I’ll see it written in a book or hear it on the radio. Every single time it’s a like a gentle reminder from the universe telling me to chill out and stop wasting my energy fighting whatever situation I’m being faced with.
It all started a few weeks ago when Tori and Ben, two absolutely incredible people from Ohio, who travel to various studios all over the country advocating this movement of going with the flow on our mats, came to OKC. Tori leads the students through a vinyasa flow class while Ben serenades the students with his acoustic guitar and vocals. I really didn’t know what to expect when I showed up for their class but I had only heard really great things.
This would be a good time for me to explain that as a yoga instructor, sometimes it’s really hard for me to get out of my own head when I practice in a class setting. I’m usually thinking “oh, I love that transition, I’ll have it rememberer that” or “wow, that was a great way the instructor lead us into that pose, I really like that” or sometimes I just don’t want to do want the instructor is asking us to do and I end up in child’s pose for half the class because my body is too tired to practice and I really just want to be on my mat, breathing with my community. Nothing more.
Something pretty radical happened when I took Tori and Ben’s class. It was one of those practices where I was deep in it. I mean complete connection to my breath and my body. My mind was silent and I felt my body move and flow in a way it never has before. I had this feeling of being the only one in room yet, It felt as if I was connected to every single person there. Our souls were united and it was as if our hearts beat as one. I didn’t control my breath at all. It just naturally came and moved my body in a dance on my mat. Not to mention the savasana. The most blissful savasana I have ever had in my life. Holy moly! Bens beautiful voice sung us a sweet, beautiful song that brought tears to my eyes. Although I’m notorious for being “that girl” that always cries in class, something shifted in me that day. I realized that I don’t always have to control situations and that sometimes if I just sit back and go with the flow instead of constantly trying to fight the situation, there could be so much more waiting for me at the end.
Lately I’ve struggled with things in my personal life not going the way I want them too. Plans change, relationships change, I change and I often find myself being very resistant to completely surrendering to the situation and allowing things to be as they are. Instead, my mind takes over and negativity starts to creep in. Once this happens it starts to consume me with negativity and it begins to spread like a disease infecting everyone around me.
But here’s the thing I’ve come to realize: change is indeed going to happen and there is not a darn thing you or I can do about it. The seasons change throughout the year bringing many changes to our environment, the years pass, we grow older, our bodies change as well as our minds. Plans change. Ideas change. People change. It happens 24/7. There is no escaping it.
So, we have two options: we can fight against it wasting the short, precious amount of time we have here, only to be in a losing battle with the universe where we end up consumed with emotions of negativity, fear, anger and resentment or we can allow ourselves to go with the flow of life understanding that we can’t always be in control. Sometimes we have to submit to the inevitable and trust that every thing is going to be okay.
Just to clarify here, by saying go with the flow I don’t mean you should just roll over and submit to every single situation that doesn’t go your way. There are obviously times when you must fight for what it is you believe in. There is a time and a place to use that energy and only you can decide when that is. But- if doing so sacrifices your character or causes you to become someone that you wouldn’t want to be around, you might take a step back and ask yourself if it’s really worth it.
Going with the flow is responding to cues from the universe and understanding that things do happen for a reason and at the end of the day we will be fine. It’s about trusting that we don’t always have to control the situation. Sometimes when the winds of the universe change, it’s perfectly okay to just sit back, relax and enjoy the ride. Going with the flow of what life has in store for us instead of fighting against it.
For more information on Ben, Tori and Go With the Flow, check out their website at: gowtheflow.org