For my birthday, a couple of really good friends got me a bracelet that has the words “choose love” on it. Ever since I read “A Return to Love” by Marianne Williamson earlier last year, I have lived my life by this concept. I’ll admit not every decision I make is truly based on me putting love before anything else, but it is definitely something that I’m working towards.
The other day I was on a run and I had this thought: what if everybody made every single decision from a place of love? What if we were able to set aside feelings of fear, hate, greed, negativity, anger, etc and allow ourselves to open up to something so much greater?
“Love is what we are born with. Fear is what we learn. The spiritual journey is the unlearning of fear and prejudices and the acceptance of love back in our hearts. Love is the essential reality and our purpose on earth. To be consciously aware of it, to experience love in ourselves and others, is the meaning of life. Meaning does not lie in things, meaning lies in us.” ||Marianne Williamson
So if love is what we are born with and is our innate ability, why are we often times living our lives far from it? I remember a talk Kathryn Budig gave when she visited. OKC and she talked about how from the minute we wake up and look in the morning, we instantly start to beat ourselves down with negativity. “Look at how puffy my eyes are”, “I’m fat”, “Is that a wrinkle?” Which leads to thoughts of “I’m never going to be good enough”, “I’ll never lose the weight.”, “I’ll be stuck in my dead end job forever”, blah, blah, blah.
From the get-go we breed negativity within ourselves. This sets the tone for the rest of our day and in turn plays a huge role in the actions we take.
More than likely, since we are already down on ourselves we don’t make the best breakfast decisions (“because I’m fat anyways, I might as well get that donut and latte”) we skip our morning workout (see reason for less than impressive breakfast) and as we start to interact with people throughout our day we become more and more agitated. We’ve sat through traffic and now we are late to work, we just spilled that latte we had to have (to make ourselves feel better, right?!?) on our dress, our jerk boss has scheduled meetings all day and so on and so on. It’s like a downward spiral of negativity.
This starts to seep into our relationships and we find at there is always something missing, yet we can’t pinpoint exactly what it is. I can easily tell you what is missing: LOVE. If we were to start our day telling ourselves just how great we are, how perfect our bodies are and instill massive amounts of love and acceptance towards ourselves, this would infect our bodies and it would spread like a disease to every single person we come in contact with. This would drastically change the world around us. We would experience overwhelming amounts of happiness, our relationships would significantly improve and our acceptance of ourselves and our bodies would help reduce levels of stress and depression.
Try it: I challenge you for the next 7 days to wake up every single morning and before anything negative can enter your thoughts, say 3 positive things about yourself. Maybe you take these three things and make them your mantra for the day. Constantly repeat it to yourself when you start to feel that you are moving in a place that is closer to fear or anger and away from love. Allow yourself to choose love every single morning and see just how it impacts every other decision you make through your day.
“I believe that every single event in life that happens, is an opportunity to choose love over fear.”||Oprah Winfrey
Stay tuned for Part II of this series where we start to take this concept of choosing love into our interactions with strangers.